Sub Chat: Expressing the Word Love

Sept 20 Sub Chat at the Forum

The single submissive feeling more like a dominant until they find themselves in a safe situation that brings out their submissive behaviors. This feeling of the submissive saying they move more like a dominant can be explained in the sense that as a single person you are responsible for your self, needing to be assertive while controlling your own life path. The topic seemed to naturally flow towards one of the goals of the single submissive, searching for and finding an appropriate Dominant. This was the point in conversation where my attention span had run out since I had felt it was repetitive from the past.

The final and most interesting topic was regarding the expression of the word love in the D/s relationship. In all relationships the word love means different things to different people and this seems to be the same in the D/s lifestyle. For some people in the D/s lifestyle their experiences of connection and mental bonding to their partner is significantly more powerful then traditional relationships. The expression of love is still a personal manifestation and varies for each individual. Most of the subs present in the sub chat expressed their preferences in different ways. Some people are very guarded with expressing the words I love you and simply cannot qualify while they believe they have not fully realized it. For other people speaking such words require the most of intense emotions and they place great significance on the meaning of the word love. Some people are comfortable saying the words “I love you” in a wide variety of situations. The complexity of value is expanded further when you hear someone uttering the words I love the way you make me feel or I love my pet fish. Some people are turned off when other people inappropriately over use the word love thus cheapening the meaning. You could imagine with the amount of detail that I tend to analyze a topic I will again have various different definitions for the word love and express it differently in a variety of situations. To me the most important way to express love is the way that best suits your partner. Knowing your partner well enough to verbally express your love or physically express your love through your actions when your partner needs to feel it.